In the Midst of It All by Mrs. Stephanie Allen-Gobert

Many years ago, I took the step of marrying a man who would eventually change my life. Taking this step wasn’t easy. Learning to love a man unconditionally requires patience, dedication, determination, forgiveness, and most importantly, the love of God. Without the love of God, I would not have been able to hold steadfast to the love I have for my spouse even in the midst of lies, infidelity, betrayal, jealousy, criticism, negativity, anxiety, depression, temptations, incarceration and the myriad of other daily struggles that arise in life. Marriage isn’t easy. Having a heart that is open to an individual with their own faults and flaws always comes with a price. But as women who whole-heartedly put their trust in God—while we wait in our heels, flats, tennis shoes or house shoes for the fulfillment of His promises to us—we know that He will keep us and everything that concerns us, in the midst of it all. The Bible says,

He who finds a wife finds a good thing… -Proverbs 18:22

To be that “good thing” might not come easy, but through His grace, mercy, and favor, the wait will be worth it! 

If you ask me, it’s hard for anyone not to love one of the greatest singers of all time, Mrs. Yolanda Adams. Her voice brings tears to my eyes; it is truly a gift from God. Throughout the years, her songs continually inspire me and millions of people all over the world. One of her songs, “In the Midst of It All,” has allowed me to know and feel the presence of the Lord in every situation, especially in the midst of some of the challenges that come with relationships and waiting on God to change you and the man you call or want to eventually call your husband.

Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil. -Ephesians 6:11

My husband and I have been together since the tenth grade (well over 20 years). Through these years, we have had many trying times where we needed to put on ALL of our armor. One of many heartbreaking and recent trials (read: schemes of the devil) was the issue of infidelity. For a “sista” of my caliber, this was a terrible pill to swallow. I was faithful… I was loyal… I was there for him and his family… I had given birth to two of his children… I cooked… I cleaned… I was taking care of business in the bedroom… How could this happen to me? What did I do wrong? All the schemes of the enemy were attacking me and my marriage. Our children were hurt and confused; our families were hurt and confused. I was all alone and had no one to turn to. It was then that I realized all the visions I had of a perfect marriage and all the things that people had said about how “perfect” our marriage looked were lies. 

But it gets better! Once I realized that God said in His Word, “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity” (Colossians 3:14), I had to fight for my marriage. I had to remind myself that I had made a vow, and it was up to me to decide how much I truly respected and honored those vows and the love I have for God and my husband. Do I still feel hurt and betrayed at times? Yes! But in the midst of it all, I try to stay encouraged and remember that Lord is right there with me, and He makes no mistakes. What the enemy meant for the bad of my marriage and friendship with my husband, God turned it around for our good! 

Weapons of the enemy come to steal our joy in almost every situation we may face in life. It doesn’t matter if you are single, married, divorced, widowed, young or old… they will come! As women of God, we are especially tested. Let each test become part of your testimony! Use those cute and classy heels to step on all the attacks that come your way. Just continue to keep the words of Yolanda Adams in your heart, “Through the pain and all of my sorrows, through the tears and all my fears, the Lord was there to keep me, for He’s kept me in the midst of it all!”

-Blessings

Stephanie

About the Author

My name is Stephanie Allen-Gobert, and I live near Houston, Texas. I am married and a mother of two children (ages 25 & 19).

I am a full-time medical professional, but I love writing on the side. I hope this portion of my story helps heal women who might be broken. To God be the glory… blessings overflow to Waiting in Heels for being another amazing outlet for women to share, read and grow.