If you are not a dancer, you may envision a rehearsal process as a place where dancers run through their routines over and over until they have reached some sort of perfection. In actuality, the rehearsal process is one of discovery. I liken rehearsal rooms to laboratories. The root word of laboratory is labor; the physical activity involved in giving birth. The physical act of investigating an idea from various perspectives and unearthing fresh understanding is the hardest and most fruitful part of my work.
Read MoreBut it gets better! Once I realized that God said in His Word, “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity” (Colossians 3:14), I had to fight for my marriage. I had to remind myself that I had made a vow, and it was up to me to decide how much I truly respected and honored those vows and the love I have for God and my husband. Do I still feel hurt and betrayed at times? Yes! But in the midst of it all, I try to stay encouraged and remember that Lord is right there with me, and He makes no mistakes. What the enemy meant for the bad of my marriage and friendship with my husband, God turned it around for our good!
Read MoreBut what about POWER SINGLES? Yeah, I’m sure you’re giving me all kinds of stank eye, but there is a group of strengthened-through-trial women that are taking the forefront in the world. They are present in education, politics, business, ministry, and more. They are power singles. Do you know any of these types of women? Are you one?
Read MoreWe all have probably heard the scripture that God’s thoughts are not our thoughts and His ways are not our ways. I want to challenge you to make this scripture a mantra for the upcoming decade. When things don’t go the way you expect, remind yourself that God sees something in your future that you don’t. Remind yourself that His understanding of what is good may be the complete opposite of your understanding, but He can be trusted because His plans for us are always good.
Read MoreI’ve been able to pinpoint five areas that could have helped me realize my potential, if I had utilized them properly. I hope that you find them applicable in your season of waiting as well, so that you can reach the full potential of who God wants you to be before He brings a spouse into your life.
Read MoreEvery woman wants to have a man look at her and see something beautiful, but do you see yourself that way? And even more than that, do you see the gifts that God has given you in your personality and skills as important and needed by others?
Read MoreI thought I had to be completely healed before I could share my story, but in all actuality, it’s important for me to tell you how much God has done for me through this tragedy (Mark 5:19). The scars remind me of the surgery, but also of God’s capability to heal, restore, sustain, and change your situation to His narrative.
Read MoreEven the most content single women struggle with handling the opinions of people on the outside looking in. It seems that the longer you remain single, the more worried people become about the status of your biological clock.
Read MoreMaybe there was a reason that I couldn't find the right man, or maybe there was a reason why my relationships usually ended in a bad way. My heart was sad and at times bitter, but it was during that season of waiting that God taught me a good deal about myself and about how to wait.
Read MoreThough we have high expectations of the person we desire to marry, we expect to be accepted unconditionally, so if that person decides to point out an area in our life that needs to be changed, we become angry. But, my dear sisters who are Waiting in Heels, what you must understand is that you will not marry perfection, and perfection will not marry you. Please know that just as the dark is inevitable in the person you are waiting for, he will also act as one of the biggest lanterns in your life, aside from Christ, to expose the dark in you.
Read MoreAs my relationship with my husband began to unfold, I learned so much about how overly romanticized my expectations of marriage were and what is actually necessary to make a marriage work.
Read MoreWere you raised to think, live, and act independently? I certainly was. Generally speaking, women are constantly shaped to be that way. We’re instructed to “get in formation” and accomplish everything ourselves, because men just aren’t that trustworthy. While that statement may ring true in specific circumstances, it doesn’t work in marriage. How do I know? I did it.
Read MoreWarning: just because a man goes to church doesn’t mean he is good for you!
Read MoreIt was essential for me to understand who I was as an individual before my ‘me time’ became ‘our time’.
Read MoreAll too often we focus on what we need to do to get married, but we never really learn how to stay married. I had been told that there would be rough moments, but I wish I had known that these moments are not something to avoid or be afraid of, because they will test your patience and faith, and they will force you to learn things about yourself that you’ve never seen before.
Read MoreWhen God responds differently than we think He should, some people may raise their hands in defeat and give up, while others may resort to manipulation.
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